Hindsight is always 20/20. Any person who has walked this heartbreaking journey with a child can tell you that this is a phrase that haunts them. Once the abuse is brought to light, phrases like “I knew something wasn’t right,” “It all makes sense now,” “How did I miss that,” “If I would have said something sooner…” all become the self-talk that adds to the hurdles they must overcome to find healing for everyone involved.
Physical abuse accounts for just over 18% of all the maltreated children in the U.S. 8.6% of those children are sexually abused. Of the children who report physical or sexual abuse, about 33% suffer both.
Here are the warning signs:
- Bruises – This is concerning particularly in children too young to be mobile. The location and shape of the bruises could be telling if a child has been grabbed, hit, or strangled. In children who are sexually abused, you might see bruising in their private areas.
- Broken/Fractured bones – pay attention to the story of how it happened. Inconsistencies and signs that a child isn’t being honest should raise a red flag, particularly if they seem to be injured frequently.
- Burn marks – especially on their feet or bottom.
- Lacerations
- Bite marks
- Scarring – could be injuries in various stages of healing.
- Seeming frightened of parents or authority figure.
- Constantly asking what’s going to happen next
- Artwork that reflects violence
These signs are particularly indicative of sexual abuse:
- Consistent unexplained stomach aches or headaches
- Knowledge of sexual behaviors that are beyond what would be considered normal for the age.
- Bedwetting/regressive behavior
- Sudden fear of the bathroom
- Complaining that it hurts to go to the bathroom possibly coupled with sudden UTI’s or STD’s
- Suddenly not wanting to spend time with someone they enjoyed previously
- Vague statements about secrets or games
It is understandable to not want to talk about such a sad topic, but remember, to many, this isn’t just a topic – this is their life. Not only is it a living nightmare, it is 95% preventable with education! Imagine the lives that could be changed if we were all willing to sacrifice our comfort just long enough to educate ourselves.
Hindsight burdens you with regret, foresight arms you with knowledge and the power to keep this from happening to someone you love.
If you suspect child abuse, please call our local law enforcement agency at 515-573-2323 or the Iowa Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-362-2178.
