AI: The Danger of Blurring the Lines Between Reality and Illusion
Artificial intelligence is transforming the way we live, work, and communicate. For children and teens, it can feel almost magical — a tool that listens, talks back, and seems to understand. But when AI begins to fill emotional or social roles once reserved for real human connection, the line between technology and friendship can become dangerously blurred.
Chatbot: Our Children’s “Frenemy”
AI chatbots are here to stay. When used responsibly, they can be helpful tools for learning, creativity, and even emotional support. However, when children begin turning to these programs as trusted friends, the dynamic can shift into risky territory.
Platforms like Character.AI, for example, let users design custom “friends” they can talk to — characters that respond affectionately, remember conversations, and even mimic empathy. While this might seem harmless, these chatbots aren’t capable of genuine care or moral judgment. Their primary goal is to keep the user engaged — and that can mean agreeing with or reinforcing even unhealthy or unsafe thoughts.
When AI Becomes Harmful
Recent research highlights just how serious this issue can become. When researchers from the Center for Countering Digital Hate posed as 13-year-olds and asked ChatGPT about sensitive topics like suicide, self-harm, and hiding eating disorders, 53% of the AI’s responses were harmful. Even more troubling, 47% of those harmful replies included follow-up messages that encouraged dangerous behavior.
This shows how easily a well-intentioned technology can become a source of harm. Because AI systems are designed to be agreeable — to keep users talking — they may inadvertently validate or even encourage risky behaviors instead of guiding vulnerable young users toward safety and support.
The Illusion of Friendship
To a child or teen who feels isolated, stressed, or misunderstood, a chatbot that always listens and never judges can feel like a lifeline. But unlike a real friend, AI can’t truly empathize or recognize when someone is in danger. What feels like comfort can quickly turn into manipulation — not because the AI “means” harm, but because it doesn’t understand the consequences of its words.
This false sense of connection can discourage children from seeking real help from trusted adults, teachers, or counselors. Over time, reliance on AI for emotional support can increase loneliness, reinforce harmful thinking patterns, and blur the line between digital illusion and reality.
What Parents and Communities Can Do
Protecting children from the unintended dangers of AI begins with awareness and open communication.
Here are some practical steps for families and communities:
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Start the conversation early. Talk with kids about what AI is — and what it isn’t. Explain that while chatbots can be helpful tools, they’re not real friends or mental health resources.
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Set boundaries. Encourage balance between online and offline relationships. Limit unsupervised time on platforms that allow private AI chats.
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Monitor interactions. Learn which apps and chatbots your children are using and how they engage with them.
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Promote real connection. Encourage in-person friendships, family activities, and conversations with trusted adults.
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Know where to find help. If your child is struggling, connect with local mental health professionals or reach out to national helplines such as the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.
Building Safe Communities Together
The Safe Communities Coalition of Fort Dodge and Webster County is committed to educating families about emerging digital risks like AI misuse. By promoting awareness and encouraging open dialogue, we can ensure technology remains a positive influence — a tool for learning and connection, not a substitute for human care.
Because while chatbots may simulate empathy, real safety, understanding, and support can only come from human connection.
